Note: I came across an article titled “The Biggest Wastes of Time We Regret When We Get Older” that I thought was important to share. It offers wise thoughts and suggestions, no matter how old or experienced you are; so much so, that I decided to make it the cornerstone of my next 4 blog posts. I hope you gain some of my additional insight, augmenting this article.
The fourth and final one in this series is about jealousy and envy of others. From the article’s intro (and my added thoughts on each section):
We spend a lot of energy looking for shortcuts to save time, and sure, those shortcuts add up. But when I look back, my biggest time regrets aren’t spending too much time on Twitter or mismanaging my daily tasks. Those are bad habits, but there are bigger, more systematic time wasters that have really gotten in the way. Fixing these will free up a massive amount of time and energy.
Worrying About Other People
Your LinkedIn profile is a true market brand about you. Not about you in relation to others’ careers, just yours.
So get over what others might think and say and be your true self.
Now get to work thinking of how to bring the journey of your career to light. Not in a resume. But in a story.
And use “I” and power verbs to tell that story well and personally. \
Ask others to help read and critique what you are about to post on your LinkedIn profiles. Does it tell your story from the POV of the friends and colleagues you trust? Did you leave anything out (it’s easy to!)
It’s OK to peek at competitors’ LinkedIn public profiles but do not worry about being the same. Telling your story will differentiate you in the eyes of the prospective client. In the end, they are “buying” you, not your competitor, for objective AND subjective reasons.
Connect with good people by vetting them for suitability. Connecting is a privilege.
Meet and nurture other experts in a topic in a Group. Converse with them outside the Group. Great relationships can arise.
Endorse others whose skills you know directly. Recommend others who did not request one as a thank you for extraordinary work they did.
Describe, don’t just list, your publications, honors, awards, pro bono / volunteer and board work, etc. in terms of why you are recognized for the value to add to others’ needs.
In other words, be a mensch. Others will recognize you as a business partner for the reasons you are a good one. But tell about yourself with little regard for others’ successes and achievements. You have yours. No jealousy or envy.
We are all rooting for you. But first you have to run with the ball yourself.
Just be you, honest and direct and true.